The intake person; “What is your marital status?”

Me; “Happy”

 

Happiness is what you arrive at when you accept yourself and your spouse. When you stop trying to change the other, when you accept the complexities of you and then work on aligning them. Not perfection, but excellence.

 

When Hashem commanded Moses to build the Mishkan, the portable sanctuary, he instructed him first on the construction of the vessels (Ark, Menorah etc.) and then the structure, but when Betzalel the GC built it, he built it structure first and then the vessels. 

 

Betzalel explained to Moshe that you don’t build the furniture before you build the house, so Hashem must have intended to have it built, structure first.

 

Moshe said to Betzalel, you were so called because Betzal-e-l – which means in the shadow of G-d. You understood G-d’s intention, that although He said vessels first he wanted structure first.

 

Moshe is focused on the purpose of the construction, the end game. Betzalel focused on the path to getting there. What a partnership/marriage!

 

How many conflicts that we have in our marriages, other relationships, in the workplace, with family members are not really conflicts at all, just different personalities at play?!

 

As we enter into the month of Nissan and the holiday of Pesach, this message is important for us to remember particularly as it relates to our fellows.  

 

Pesach is the birth of our nation, we journeyed together from the birth of Abraham through the travails of Egypt. Then Hashem redeemed us from there and brought us to Sinai where we were born as one Nation, one People. 

 

We are all going to have differences. The key is to recognize that we are connected at our core and we all want the same thing at the end of the day.

 

Happy Nissan, Happy Pesach, Happy Marriage. Good Shabbos or Shabbat Shalom, however you say it :-).